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A Brit Queer: Why are people concerned about LGBTQ+ rights in the wake of the UK election?

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Hello and welcome to A Brit Queer, where a queer woman from Britain splits her time between discussing fun stuff like TV shows and events and serious stuff like the political and social issues facing the LGBTQ+ community in Britain.

Some columns will focus on the lighter side of being gay in the UK, like praising medical drama Holby City for tackling two separate storylines dedicated to same-sex couples at the same time because that level of representation was not something I expected.

However, this is not one of those times.

Today, we’re going to talk about the recent UK elections and what that means for the LGBTQ+ community. I know, I know, I’m a little late to the party, but give me a break, Travel Pride only just launched.

So you’ve probably seen some very confusing coverage of our June election (especially if you live outside of the UK) and I’ll try to break it down as quick as possible.

Wtf happened in the UK election?

House of Commons Chamber- UK Parliament via Wikipedia

First, no single party achieved the 326-seat majority needed to form a government, which resulted in a hung parliament (no, not like that).  You need to get 326 seats in the House of Commons (our elected legislative chamber) because that is exactly half the total seats plus one.

The Conservative Party did, however, get the most number of seats in the election (318) and therefore they get to form a government. They can either rule as a minority government and risk the all the other parties banding together to vote their bills down or seek an alliance with another political party.

Trouble is, our last coalition government was not particularly favourable (I mean, it’s referred to as the ConDem coalition) and the Liberal Democrats, who partnered with the Conservatives, have not really recovered.  In 2015, the first election after the coalition, the Lib Dems plummeted from over 50 seats in the HOC to just eight.

So, the Lib Dems haven’t really been champing at the bit to help out this time. Plus, their current (but soon-to-be-replaced) leader Tim Farron faced a lot of deserved criticism for the time he took to say that being gay wasn’t “sinful” and his voting record on LGBTQ+ rights.

Do not adjust your screen, this really is the 21st century.

So the Conservatives are seeking an alliance with is the Democratic Unionist Party from Northern Ireland, who are the only other right-of-centre party to have seats in the HOC.

The trouble is, the DUP have views that are significant to the right of the Conservatives on a few issues, specifically women’s rights to reproductive health, LGBTQ+ rights in general, whether climate change is happening and whether evolution is real.

I’ll give you a minute to stop rolling your eyes.

What does this mean for LGBTQ+ rights?

People are rightly worried about what this means for women’s rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and the environment, especially when you consider that the UK now has to start negotiating Brexit and gets to decide which laws from the EU that we will and will not keep.

Leaving aside, environmental rights and women’s rights for a hot second, many of the UK’s current LGBTQ+ protections are derived from the EU, such as the right not to be fired based on sexual orientation or gender identity, and if the DUP wanted, they could influence the Conservatives to weaken or scrap these laws.

I mean the DUP gained Northern Ireland’s exemption from the UK’s equal marriage ruling of 2013, when no one really wanted anything from them, despite the other political party in Northern Ireland, Sinn Fein, supporting same-sex marriage.

Luckily, as of yet, the DUP have not been given positions of power within the Cabinet. I mean, it was unlikely because Labour would not be able to form a majority, but it still scared me sh*tless on June 9. However, the DUP has just scored £1bn from the Conservatives and it is likely that over the course of the current Parliament, the DUP will want more.

Nigel Dodds MP- Northern Ireland Executive via Flickr

Nigel Dodds, the DUP MP for Belfast North, said, during the first Prime Minister’s Questions of the new Parliament, that the money in his constituency would go towards mental health services in Northern Ireland.

That all sounds fantastic, but you know what? LGB people in the UK are twice as likely as straight people to suffer from depression, have suicidal thoughts, and attempt suicide and the rates are even higher for trans people.

Let’s be clear, there are many contributing factors for depression (and I don’t claim to be an expert) but I think we can all see that any existing depression is exacerbated when your elected official is voting against your f*cking rights and when others in his party are describing you as an “abomination”. Like…I can’t… It’s…Urrgh!

What can you do?

If you live in the UK, please write to your MP (especially if they’re a Tory) and explain why you are concerned about a #MayDUP coalition. Remember to be polite, even if you’re angry because it’s more likely they will take you seriously.

Outside of the UK but still worried about a homophobic, sexist voice in the ear of our Prime Minister? Share this with your British friends and ask them to contact their MP.

Tune in next week for a (hopefully) happier column of A Brit Queer, perhaps something about the 50 Shades of Gay Season on Channel 4.

Originally posted 2017-07-11 20:35:53.

Emma is a queer British freelance writer specializing in politics, travel, and entertainment. Barack Obama (yes, that one) follows her on Twitter and she’s never been sure why. She takes her coffee seriously and wears odd socks because life’s too short.

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Tell It Like A Lesbian

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My mother refuses to refer to my partner as anything other than a friend. We’ve been dating for three years and my mother still won’t acknowledge our relationship. Am I crazy for being angry about this and wanting to confront her? I feel insulted and it really upsets my partner. –Clarke

Dear Clarke, You’re not crazy for being upset at your mother. It sounds like you have every right to be angry, especially if after three years your mother can’t even acknowledge your relationship. If talking to her gently about it hasn’t worked after all this time, it may indeed be time to confront her more forcefully, as your partner’s feelings are also being hurt by this behavior. If you decide to confront her and her attitude remains unchanged, it may be time to cut ties. After all, your happiness is what matters most in this situation, regardless of whatever is causing such denial from your mother. You must put the health of you and your partner’s relationship first, and eventually, your mother may come to realize what she is losing because of her denial.

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Dear Tell It, Do you have any suggestions for handling depression? I’ve been really struggling with loneliness and I have no energy for anything, even stuff I usually enjoy. I feel like I have no one to turn to. –Otto

Dear Otto, Depression often causes the loneliness and sense of isolation that you are feeling. It’s important that you recognize this as a symptom of your depression and do your best not to isolate yourself as a result. Because depression can take a lot of energy, remember that your brain and body need time to recover. And remember that focusing on self-care is not selfish. Depression is an illness just like the flu and other diseases and should be treated with the same care.

On bad days, make a warm drink that you enjoy, read your favorite book or watch a show or movie you love. Spend some time by yourself to recharge, and then contact a friend or family member to let them know what you’ve been feeling. Make a plan to spend time with them, even if it’s only for an hour or two, preferably away from your house. Getting outside and into a new environment is an excellent way of resetting your brain. While I wish I could tell you otherwise, depression doesn’t just go away. You will likely go through phases of good and bad, and it’s important to learn the symptoms that are specific to you. If you have suicidal thoughts, don’t hesitate to ask for help. The suicide hotline number is 1-800-273-8255. Hang in there, and remember that there are people who care.

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Originally posted 2017-10-26 14:10:06.


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In December, This Round-The-World Cruise Visits 35 Countries

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Imagine being able to visit 66 ports in 35 countries over 141 days.  Such a trip has never been offered in the past, but now Viking Cruises, based in Los Angeles, is planning one.  

The Viking Sun will set sail on 15 December 2017. Furthermore, Cruise Critic has named Viking Cruises as one of the top 10 cruise lines for gay and lesbian travelers because it frequently partners with LGBT travel agencies and past travelers have reported good experiences.  In fact, the 2017 CRUIZIE Awards for LGBT Cruise Travel awarded Viking River Cruises the ‘Best River Cruise Line for LGBTQ Passengers.’  

So what is this journey going to look like?  Let’s have a look:  

Day 1: Depart From Miami

Miami

On 15 December 2017, the Viking Sun will leave Miami, the international city in Florida.  If you are embarking on this trip and are here in Miami, appreciate the barrier islands and Miami beach.  Here, find colorful buildings, surfside hotels and white sand.  If this sounds good, then spend a few days here, before making your way to the Viking Sun. 

Days 2 to 20: The Caribbean, Central America and Los Angeles

The Caribbean

On day 2, cruise the Caribbean Sea,  which covers an area of approximately 1,063,000 square miles. The deepest area in this sea is the Cayman Trench between Cuba and Jamaica.  Between day 3 and day 5, explore the city of Cienfuegos in Cuba, where a walking tour is offered.  This traveler explored gorgeous flamingoes, boat houses and more attractions.  

Between days 6 to 17, visit other countries lying in the Caribbean and South and Central America: Jamaica, Costa Rica, Panama, Nicaragua, and Guatemala. Then briefly visit  Mexico and Los Angeles, before cruising the Pacific Ocean.   

Days 30 to 43: French Polynesia, Cook Islands, Tonga and Fiji

Nuka Hiva, the largest of the Marquesas Islands in French Polynesia

French Polynesia, an overseas French possession, consists of more than 100 stunning islands, stretching across more than 2,000 kilometers. Start cruising the South Pacific and visit Taiohae, the main town of Nuka Hiva (pictured above) in French Polynesia.  You will also visit Tahiti and Bora Bora, known for its scuba diving.  

The 15 gorgeous islands that make up the Cook Islands could provide a hint of paradise.  Warm tropical waters, crystal clear waters and aquatic life are just a few of the treasures that can be found here. Then in Tonga, discover white beaches, coral reefs and tropical rainforest.  Continue this tropical holiday in Fiji, which also has beaches and coral reefs.  

Days 44 to 113: New Zealand, Australia and Asia

New Zealand

In New Zealand, go on an extensive tour that includes the Bay of Islands, an enclave of more than 140 islands with beaches and water activities. Find an abundance of wildlife, including penguins, dolphins, marlin, whales, and gannets.  There’s even a camping ground here.

Go on to cruise the Tasman Sea, and discover several attractions in Australia. The Great Barrier Reef, located in northeastern Australia, consists of golden beaches, thousands of reefs, and hundreds of Islands with dolphins, sharks, and colorful fish.     

Then cruise the Timor Sea and start exploring the culture and beauty of Asia. See Indonesia, and then go on to visit Brunei, Malaysia, Philippines, China, Hong Kong , Vietnam, Thailand, Cambodia, Singapore and India.  During this journey explore Ha Long Bay in Vietnam, which has beautiful islands topped with rainforests.  

Days 114 to 131: The Middle East, North Africa and the Central Mediterranean

Malta in the Central Mediterranean

Cruise across the Arabian Sea, and tour several countries in the Middle East and North Africa: Oman, Jordan, Egypt, and Tunisia. There is also a stop at Malta, located in the Central Mediterranean.  See wildflowers, plants, prehistoric sites, and walk to discover Malta’s natural beauty.  

Days 132 to 141: Europe

Murcia (Cartagena), Spain

See Portugal, England, and explore the beaches and hiking trails of Sardinia, the Italian island in the Mediterranean Sea. In Spain, Murcia is a university city with beaches, water sports, wine, and historical sites.    

Want to explore these countries, and Interested in this cruise? Call Viking at 888-850-6260 or find out more here.

Originally posted 2017-10-26 14:08:07.

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Same-Sex Marriage in the US: A Decade of Change

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On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court announced the decision to make same-sex marriage a right in all 50 states. People all over the country celebrated, pride flags were flown, and for the first time, the White House was lit with rainbow lights. The decision was a landmark victory for the gay-rights movement, but behind it all was decades of litigation, activism, and advocacy.

In 1996, a law called the Defense of Marriage Act was signed into law by President Bill Clinton. It defined marriage as “the union of one man and one woman” in the United States constitution. Individual states were able to recognize same-sex unions, but on a federal level, the words wife, husband, and spouse, were reserved specifically for heterosexual couples. Same-sex couples were also denied social security survivor’s benefits and were unable to jointly file taxes. For almost a decade, the DOMA remained.

After 40 years of being together, Edith Windsor and Thea Spyer traveled to Toronto to get legally married in 2007. A year later, their union was officially recognized by their home state of New York . In 2009, Spyer passed away at the age of 77. She left her entire estate to her wife, Windsor. Because of DOMA, the federal government did not recognize their union as a marriage and Windsor was required to pay over $300,000 in taxes on her inheritance. Windsor decided to challenge this because she was legally married and should have therefore qualified for an unlimited tax deduction on the inherited estate. After approaching several gay-rights advocacy groups, she was repeatedly denied and was unable to find representation.

Finally, Roberta Kaplan of Paul, Weiss, Rifkind, Wharton & Garrison LLP agreed to take on the case. In 2010, her case was filed and made its way through the circuits and in 2013 it had reached the United States Supreme Court. In a 5-4 decision, the court ruled in favor of Windsor and announced that DOMA had been unconstitutional. By the same margin, the Supreme Court would legalize same-sex marriage three years later.

In September of 2017, Windsor passed away at the age of 88. She left behind a legacy of activism and change, and hope. At her funeral, Hillary Rodham read a eulogy. “Because of her, people came out, marched in their first pride parade, married the love of their life. Thank you, Edie,” reported the New York Daily News.“Thank you for being a beacon of hope, for proving that love is more powerful than hate.”

Edith Windsor has helped to change the lives of thousands of LGBTQ couples and her legacy will continue to live on. Do you have a story of how legalizing same-sex marriage changed your life? Tell us in the comments!

Originally posted 2017-10-25 13:58:13.

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