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Housesitting – A fun and cost-effective way to travel the world

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Housesitting is a growing phenomenon worldwide. A hacienda in Mexico. A houseboat in Amsterdam . A luxury apartment in London . These are just a few of the exotic locations where you could find yourself as a house-sitter.

The concept works both ways. It’s a fantastic solution for animal lovers who are looking for an alternative to the high cost of vacation accommodation. Alternatively, it’s perfect for homeowners who require pet care while they are away from home. Both parties benefit, and the pet is probably the biggest winner of all.

My partner and I have been housesitting for over five years. We gave up our office jobs when we decided we wanted a change of lifestyle. Travel was very much on the agenda. Our first adventure took us to India, Sri Lanka, and Nepal. After a wonderful six months, we returned to the UK. We had no ties and decided that we wanted to continue to travel. We both love animals and thought we would try to incorporate housesitting into our new lifestyle.

A winter house sit in Toronto

Our first house sit was in our hometown of Brighton, UK. We took care of an adorable pooch double act called Snoop and Biscuit. Following that, we headed to Toronto, where we lived in a bungalow by Lake Ontario for five months with a lovely cat. We followed it with a month backpacking in Mexico. Since then we haven’t looked back. We house sit and backpack around the world, meeting a wide range of delightful people and their pets.

We have made many friends all over the world since we began our housesitting career and have carried out lots of repeat sits. Without housesitting, we would never have been able to afford to visit some of the far-flung countries that we have.

Anyone who has a beloved pet knows how hard it can be when it comes to vacations. Kennels and catteries don’t generally provide the level of attention and care that a dog or cat is accustomed to. Many pets don’t like leaving the comfort and security of their own home and find a change of routine traumatic. Some pet owners even choose not to go on vacation to avoid having to deal with the situation.

One of our regulars, Paulie, in Brighton, UK

Having a house-sitter means that pet owners can go away and enjoy their vacation safe in the knowledge that someone responsible and caring will be taking care of things in their absence. Additionally, having someone in their property while they are away makes sense from a security perspective. On top of all that, they don’t have any pet-care bills to pay.

The advantages to the house-sitter are numerous. The major benefit is not having to pay for accommodation, a huge saving. Having a kitchen makes it possible for the house-sitter to prepare food, consequently spending less on eating out. The house-sitter can become part of the community and enjoy the comforts of home. A very different experience to staying in a soulless hotel room.

So, how do you get started? We began by looking after the pets of friends. Every time we did a cat visit or looked after a dog, we would ask for a reference. Slowly, but surely, we built up a portfolio of recommendations. We also had a police check carried out, an easy procedure, which gives peace of mind to the property owner. We then registered with a housesitting website, and before we knew it were receiving requests to housesit all over the world. Trustedhousesitters at https://www.trustedhousesitters.com is one of the largest international housesitting websites and offers global opportunities.

While backpacking in Guatemala, we did two house sits in the beautiful city of Antigua

Most house sitters are happy to offer their services in exchange for the opportunity to stay somewhere rent free. Occasionally the property owner will request that the cost of utility bills are met, especially on longer-term sits. In all of the house-sits carried out, we have only had to pay for bills on one occasion. It is up to both parties to come to an agreement.

In addition to pet care, the sitters are often responsible for receiving mail, watering plants and sometimes a little garden maintenance. Needless to say, the property should be kept in a clean and tidy condition for the owner’s return.

We have stayed in all types of properties from a multi-million-dollar house complete with swimming pool and steam room to a modest one bedroom apartment. Although we tend to limit ourselves to looking after cats and dogs, we have come across llamas, rats, snakes, donkeys and even an ocelot requiring care! Occasionally, a housesit is pet-free, the owner wanting housesitters purely for security purposes, although this type of sit is in the minority.

Enjoying the company of Daisy and Blue

All kinds of people housesit. Some, like us, are full timers. These days, many are digital nomads who work location independently. Others housesit occasionally. Families and retired couples often prefer  to stay in a more homely environment, saving money at the same time. The one thing everyone has in common is a love of animals.

Housesitting has opened up a world of opportunities to us and enabled us to meet a host of characters, human and animal. We have been privileged to have an insight into different cultures and ways of life.

Check out https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YMIYQ7Qg3BM to find out about the experiences of LGBTQ house-sitters. Whether you want to travel the globe or you require some loving care for your pet whilst away, housesitting could be the answer you are looking for!

Snoop and Biscuit – a cute double act!

Originally posted 2017-07-31 17:11:42.

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I Know Where I’ve Been: All Over The Place, As It Seems

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Travelogues are nothing new in the realm of literature. Ever since the dawn of the written word, there have been innumerable people who want to tell the stories of faraway places they may or may not have visited. Marco Polo was just only the most visible one; there was many who came before him, and many who sought to imitate him afterwards. In fact, one of the first modern satires, Gulliver’s Travels, was written under the thin veneer of being a parody of “traveller’s tales”. So in the age of social media, the concept of the travelogue might seem as dated as the rotary phone.

Which leads to Robert Coles’ I Know Where I’ve Been: A Year-Long Journey of Self-Discovery, a new type of spectrum-friendly travelogue. Though he notes of occasional trips to Mexico and Colombia, most of the travels documents are in the United States and Canada. More specifically, it detailed his travels throughout 2015 and the connections that he had made in the process of reaching his goal of visiting 30 cities by the end of the year. In between the stories about random adventures and quirky friends/lovers are a series of sober reflections on not only his life but also the lives of those around him.

It is in these reflections that one can find the emotional core of I Know Where I’ve Been, and certainly makes it stand out from the standard travelogue. These include stories of his family (specifically of his dad, who died of a heart attack at 53) as well as past lovers (such as “Josh”, with whom he had a fun but ill-fated relationship). It also informs the reader of Coles’ mentality about travel, as his family was not able to travel very much, save for the occasional trip to Disney World or a place like Yellowstone. In a household like that with a person like Coles turned out to be, it is no wonder that he turned out to be such a major traveler. And of course, his sexuality does play an important role at certain moments, including an experience with those with a homophobic bent. Specifically, it first comes to a head when a seemingly nice Christian family turns on him with a vengeance when one of its members catches him looking up certain explicit files downloaded from Limewire.  

Of course, the travel stories in I Know Where I’ve Been themselves do stand out in their own right, which is an important part of a work in this genre. And unlike many popular travelogues, there is a tinge of emotional honesty to most of them, which makes it akin to a mix of An Idiot Abroad and Michael Palin’s Around The World In 80 Days in literary form. Coles does not shy away from the horror stories, such as the Airbnb fiasco in Chicago or a miserable night on the bad side of Detroit. Nor does he leave out some of the stranger things, such as the night in Detroit being followed by a slightly unnerving passport check at the Canadian border. Nor does he gloss over several of the tales of him and his company going on full-blown benders, with the results akin to a remake of The Hangover on a college film fest budget.

However, the experiences throughout his 2015 in I Know Where I’ve Been come out as a net positive, especially with all of the people he met. Standouts include the “Denver Death Tour”, the visits to the Second City improv venue, and visiting Toronto ’s famous CN Tower. Perhaps the most accurate statement by Coles is the following: “While I certainly regret some of the behaviors and wish I could erase some of the memories, I wouldn’t change who I am today because of them.” It is likely the reader will share the same sentiment by the end.

Originally posted 2017-07-30 10:04:24.

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Relationships and Monogamy: Does Sexuality Play a Role in Monogamous Practices?

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Whatever your sexual orientation or gender may be, there’s one thing we can all collectively agree on: Monogamy seems a difficult practice for many people.

That is not to say there are not monogamous partners out there. There are, in fact, plenty of happily practicing monogamous partners who are satisfied with their current relationship situation.

According to the Journal of Sexuality and Social Psychology, men, considered the “fast sex,” tend to “maximize their mating opportunities” by increasing the number of sexual partners in their life. For women, a large number of partners holds no physiological benefits, and “would risk producing offspring of low quality if mated indiscriminately,” making it much more likely for men to cheat than women.

However, as we watch the world progress, we observe a greater tolerance of gender and sexual fluidity. With simplicity comes complexity, and, to state the very obvious: Relationships can be rather messy.

It’s been proven that men show, “a greater interest in uncommitted sex.” It’s also been proven that out of all couples, gay men are by far the least committed to staying faithful in a long term relationship (numbers change based on national averages.)

And while lesbian affairs are the least likely of all, let’s not forget emotional cheating, and how damaging the effects can be on a relationship. More importantly, over the past couple of decades, the percentage of women who have admitted to cheating has risen 40%, while the percentage of men has stayed the same.

We know these numbers also depend on different factors, such as socioeconomic conditions, lack of self-satisfaction, and poor emotional validation,   

Gender norms may have you believe that men are more likely to cheat, but in a 2016 study, statics show that while 57% of men are likely to cheat, this is just a small incline from the 54% of women who have admitted to some type of affair.

In a Psychology Today study, Dr. Elizabeth Sheff finds a common theme among cheating in monogamous relationships over two-decade study, “Some people become polyamorous, starting swinging, or attempt other forms of CNM after they have tried – sometimes for many years – to maintain monogamous relationships and found themselves cheating repeatedly.”

Thus, a question remains: Does your gender and sexual orientation play any type of role in your participation of monogamous relationships?

In short: The answer is no.

Your sexuality does not play a role in whether or not you are more inclined to monogamous practices, but a New York Times article explains that the answers may be found in your genes.

The culprit seems to be “vasopressin,” a “hormone that has powerful effects on social behaviors like trust, empathy and sexual bonding in humans and other animals,” which strongly affects your inclination to cheat.

In a study using prairie and montane voles, sexually monogamous and sexually promiscuous creatures, Dr. Thomas R. Insel, director of the National Institute of Mental Health, noticed a change in the animal’s behavior when vasopressin receptors were induced and when they were blocked.

When blocked, the animals were disposed to monogamous sexual behaviors. When injected, “pair bonding,” the scientific term for infidelity, was promoted.

It seems vasopressin is the key to “social bonding” between animals and can be speculated that this is the reason such a large number of people are naturally against monogamy.

Although this research is not 100% proven and is still debatable, it seems that human’s polygamous nature comes naturally from within.

Of course, we are not set to one standard or one type of relationship with our partner(s). Relationships, much like sexuality, comes in all different shapes and sizes. Everyone should have the freedom to explore whatever they should so choose, but bear in mind that respect, honesty and mutual happiness are the most important factors of any relationship between partners.

Originally posted 2017-07-29 15:01:00.

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One Step Forward, Two Steps Back: Trump’s Trans Military Ban

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The LGBTQ community has made significant progress in terms of equality. A person was not allowed to be openly gay in the US military until former president Obama repealed the “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy in September of 2011. Gay men and women are now allowed to be out, proud, and active members of the military. Unfortunately, this is not the case for transgender individuals. On Wednesday, July 26, 2017, president Donald Trump tweeted that transgender people are not allowed to serve in the armed forces “in any capacity.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How alarming! This is a clear violation of human rights and extremely detrimental to the fight for equality for the LGBTQ community. (We also have to appreciate the irony of the tweets considering that on July 26, 1948, former president Truman desegregated the military).

What Trump is basically saying is that allowing transgender people in the military would be a financial detriment. I’m assuming that he is referring to the cost of hormones for transgender people. What he doesn’t realize that the cost of hormones is significantly less than what the military is paying for medications such as Viagra. According to the United Press International, the US military spends ten times more on erectile dysfunction medication than transgender care. 

So, what does this mean? Well, it may mean any number of things:

  1. Trump has no idea what he’s talking about
  2. He’s pandering to the conservative right
  3. He’s transphobic

Who really knows? Whatever the reason, it is definitely a step back for equality. However, hope is not lost as many people are taking a stand against Trump’s ban. Celebrities such as Lady Gaga had some things to say about this ban.

 

 

 

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Lady Gaga is not the only person fighting against Trump’s un-American ban. The Human Rights Campaign, or HRC, is fighting for the rights of transgender people, saying that the ban is an “all-out assault on service members” and that the ban would affect approximately 15,000 currently serving troops. This will clearly have a negative impact on the US military as it consists of millions of brave men and women who fight for the freedom of the American citizens and losing even one soldier due to bigotry can cause the military to weaken.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The American Civil Liberties Union, or UCLA, is also fighting against Trump’s ban.

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Don’t give up hope! This ban is definitely a step in the wrong direction and it hopefully won’t spiral into something even more horrible which is why it is very important that we speak out against this hateful action. Voice your outrage anywhere where your voice can be heard and stand with the transgender community during this trying time, use the hashtag #protecttranstroops on Twitter, repeat the maxim “trans people are not a burden,” and fight for what is right. It may not be easy but as long as we fight, the rights of transgender individuals can and will be protected.

 

 

 

 

 

Originally posted 2017-07-28 21:19:21.


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