Connect with us


A Brit Queer: Why the Never Going Underground Exhibition on LGBTQ+ Rights Made Me Cry



Hello and Welcome to the latest column of A Brit Queer, in which I will explain how I began crying in a museum exhibition on a Monday morning and why I’m totally okay with that.

Over the last week of July, I took a week off work but, as I’m sure you know, travel writers are never really ‘on holiday’ (I’m not complaining; I love my job), so I popped into the People’s History Museum in Manchester in order to do a feature on their latest exhibition: Never Going Underground: The Fight for LGBT+ Rights

This exhibition was designed to coincide with the 50th anniversary of the partial decriminalisation of male homosexuality in the UK (Scotland and Northern Ireland didn’t follow suit until the 1980s), in order to celebrate how far we’ve come and recognise how much further we have to go.

On their website, the PHM notes: “There was, however, nothing inevitable about that progress, and there were steps back as well as forward.”


As you might expect, there was a timeline of LGBTQ+ rights in Britain from pre-1533 (introduction of the Buggery Act by notorious a**hole Henry VIII) to the present day. Some of these events are instantly recognisable by every queer person in Britain (2014: Equal Marriage) but some are less so (1951: First Transwoman in the UK undergoes confirmation surgery).

It was incredible to see history laid out in front of me in this way and to see clearly that our fight for equality is not the linear path that I love to imagine. Nowhere was this more clear than in this image of two legal statutes that appeared right next to each other, smh.

Some entries made me smile, while others made me audibly sigh, but the image below shows the timeline entries that made me think the most.

Captions, clockwise from top: “Yes! *dances*”, “Well duh!”, “It took how long?”, “That’s really sad.”, “Another terrible legacy of colonialism.”

The exhibition’s title was selected because it was the name of the campaign against Section 28- the infamous legislation that forbade local authorities from ‘promoting homosexuality’- which saw the largest ever gathering for LGBTQ+ rights in Manchester in 1988.

Courtesy of PHM

This homophobic law was eventually overturned in 2003 but by then, it had already affected a whole generation of school children who weren’t told that it was okay to be who they were and had countless other repercussions on LGBTQ+ people coming of age in the 90s.

Courtesy of PHM



The exhibition was put together with the help the local LGBTQ+ community, who donated clothes that they wore to Pride, sourced early depictions of queer people in British media, and told their stories about being LGBTQ+ in the UK.

On of my favourite parts of the museum was the Closets are for Clothes display which featured clothing and objects to represent the lives of activists, not just because I love politically charged clothing but also because it showed that these people weren’t only change makers; they were husbands, wives, mothers, fathers, and friends.

Both photos courtesy of PHM

Attending the exhibition and seeing snapshots into the lives of early queer people, reinvigorated my activist soul and my desire to make things better for the next generation. It also made me thankful to those who came before me and made things better for me.


Now you may be thinking, what made you cry at the exhibition? In all honesty, it was a mixture of things; reading activist stories, looking back at how bad things used to be, but the most prominent reason was one of the interactive exhibits on display.

You could contribute your favourite Pride anthem to their jukebox, write down your hopes for LGBTQ+ rights over the next fifty years, create your own Pride t shirt, make a Pride badge, play an activist-themed Frustration (I’m not kidding).

But those weren’t why I cried. The part that got to me was the Remembrance Wall for those we have lost. I lost a friend last year, who was really influential in my growth as a social justice advocate and in my acceptance of myself as queer and as I added her name to the wall, I began to cry.

Thankfully, no one was in that part of the museum at the time (it’s never great when strangers catch you rubbing at your eyes with your sleeve) and I was able to leave without embarrassing myself.

Overall, the NGU exhibition demonstrates how the fight for LGBTQ+ rights spans all of the main political parties (although there are definitely some who don’t give a ****), all religions, and all intersections of British life. Our movement is not, and has never been, a monolith; we need all colours of the rainbow.

It is open until September 3rd. If you’re heading to the North West this summer, I recommend visiting and checking it out for yourself because everyone’s experience is going to be different. The exhibition features family-friendly interactive areas and there’s even a special activity bag for young visitors and has a gender-neutral toilet.

Have you been to the exhibition? What did you think? Are there any other LGBTQ+ exhibitions in the UK that you want to tell me about? Let me know in the comments below.

On behalf of Travel Pride, I’d like to thank them for their assistance in letting us use the photos above, and answering my questions about the exhibition.

All photos provided by Emma Murphy unless otherwise stated.

Originally posted 2017-08-12 12:49:00.

Emma is a queer British freelance writer specializing in politics, travel, and entertainment. Barack Obama (yes, that one) follows her on Twitter and she’s never been sure why. She takes her coffee seriously and wears odd socks because life’s too short.

48 Hours In...

48 Hours in Honolulu



Why Go?

How about sparkling azure ocean, white sand beaches, surfers, hula dancers and swaying palm trees for starters? Throw in the opportunity to enjoy some world-class shopping/dining experiences and a laid-back aloha vibe. There’s no doubt where in the world you are when you hit the hedonistic streets of Waikiki. Before heading out to the other islands, make sure you take a couple of days to soak up the delights of this dynamic Hawaiian city.

Getting There

All flights arrive at Honolulu International Airport, from where you can take a taxi to Waikiki Beach about nine miles away. The other alternative is a shuttle bus. If you haven’t got too much luggage, you could take the airport bus, which is the cheapest option by far.

Most tourists stay in Waikiki. This is where the beach and most of the attractions are located. They are all within easy walking distance of one another. Honolulu’s downtown area is three miles from Waikiki.

Checking In

Although it is possible to seek out a bargain, hotels in Waikiki are on the expensive side. One of the most iconic places to stay is the romantic and luxurious Royal Hawaiian Hotel, located on the beachfront. Easily recognisable by its pink exterior, it has been used in many TV shows and movies. At the other end of the scale, check out the quirky Royal Grove Hotel, a great budget option and only a block away from the beach!

Day One

Before you head to the beach, enjoy a relaxed breakfast at Lulu’s While you tuck into local specialties Loco Moco or Longboard Benedict, check out the stunning views of Diamond Head and Waikiki Beach.

Waikiki is probably the most famous beach in the world, and deservedly so. Where better to learn to ride the waves than the birthplace of surfing? If you don’t bring your own board, you can rent one – the waves are perfect for beginners. As well as being incredibly warm, the ocean is the most sublime turquoise you will ever lay eyes on. If you prefer a more sedate experience, rent a sun lounger and simply chill in paradise.

Hit the waves! Many establishments hire out boards or give surf lessons

If you can tear yourself away from the beach, check out Waikiki Aquarium, which has a vibrant display of native fish, turtles and two Hawaiian monk seals.

For the ultimate Hawaiian shopping experience, make tracks to Ala Moana Center, a sprawling mall chock-a-block with stores and restaurants. There are regular Hawaiian music and dance events on the stage and lots of opportunities to buy souvenirs or sample local delicacies.

Make your way back to Waikiki Beach, with a pause at Moose’s (310 Lewers St. Honolulu) for Happy Hour and a bite to eat. The cocktails here are great value. You will soon be feeling the aloha spirit and  be ready to hit the beach again, this time to watch the sun sink over the ocean. The torch-lighting and hula show takes place on the beach most evenings, and crowds gather to watch the entertainment in the fading light. It’s a magical time of the day in Waikiki and the atmosphere is mellow as everyone enjoys the vibe and beautiful setting.

If you are in the mood to party, you can’t go wrong at Hula’s Bar & Lei Stand, Honolulu’s longest established LGBTQ venue. It’s a friendly spot, where both locals and tourists congregate. There are views over the ocean and live entertainment most nights of the week. The cocktails are potent and the staff welcoming

Day Two

Start the day energetically with a hike to the summit of Diamond Head, the dramatic volcanic crater which overlooks the city. Take some snacks and plenty of water. if you head out early, you will avoid the intense midday heat. The trail is steep and a little uneven, but the hour’s climb is worth it for the sweeping views of the ocean and city skyline.

After building up an appetite on the trail, enjoy a lunch buffet at the famous Duke’s Duke’s Barefoot Bar is right on the beach and serves up a buffet featuring locally grown produce and an abundance of tempting accompaniments. Alternatively, try the fresh fish dishes or burgers. There is often live music, and a visit to Duke’s is a quintessential Hawaiian experience not to be missed.

The Barefoot Bar at Duke’s

After some more beach time, stroll along to the historical Royal Hawaiian Hotel and take in the traditional ambiance. Treat yourself to a delicious cocktail at the Mai Tai Bar, a mere few steps away from the sand.

The Royal Hawaiian

Next up, take the elevator to the Top of Waikiki The revolving restaurant offers spectacular views, especially at sunset. Appetizers and cocktails are available during Happy Hour, which goes from 5.00pm-9.30pm. The perfect ending to two blissful days in Honolulu!

View from Top of Waikiki



Originally posted 2017-08-24 18:54:31.

Continue Reading


Getting Lost the Right Way (and Avoiding the Wrong)



Road trips are magical. The open road, the endless possibilities. But you know what isn’t so magical? Getting lost in the middle of nowhere (read: out in the boondocks where not even the coyotes know where the closest gas station is). That being said, there is a right way and a very, very wrong way to get lost on a trip.

If you want to get lost and enjoy yourself, it’s best to have a plan in place. Seems counterintuitive, yes. But getting lost on purpose is more organized than it sounds. To start, know the highways nearby and keep in mind that the point of getting lost on purpose is to see new things. When lost the right way, it’s certainly not about the destination, which is good to keep in mind. For one, make sure your tank is completely full. Nothing is scarier than getting lost in the countryside with only a quarter tank and no sign of civilization in sight.

Don’t trust that GPS will always be there for you. Like that one friend, it probably won’t be (Totally not something that happened to me recently in rural south Georgia, not at all). Depending on your carrier, data connection and location services can be spotty at best and nonexistent at worst. Don’t be like me, who learned this the hard way.

Use GPS even if you think you remember the way back. The last drive I went on, I followed directions very carefully getting there and believed that I would be able to remember the turns in reverse going home.This resulted in what I like to call: a disaster. What I didn’t consider was the fact that rural Georgia looks completely different at night, when every tree looks the same and you have the added hazard of deer all over the roads. I knew I was lost after twenty minutes, but I kept driving, foolishly positive I’d eventually find the right road again.

Maps are your friends. Remember how your parents always told you to keep a map or atlas in your glove box? They weren’t just being old-fashioned. When GPS has failed and you longer recognize any landmarks, a map is your only hope (barring meeting a friendly stranger or an extra cell tower magically constructing itself in the next open field).

Print out directions beforehand. I know, I know. Printing out directions Google Maps is almost as dated as paper maps. But believe me, it can’t hurt. Even if you don’t print them, the screenshot feature on smart phones exists for a reason. Before you hit the road, coffee and snacks stocked and ready to go, pull up GPS while you have bars or Wi-Fi, and find the turn-by-turn directions. Screenshot them. And then, when you inevitably lose service at some point in your voyage, you still have access to your route. I didn’t do this, and by the time I had service again, I was two and a half hours away from home, when the drive should’ve taken an hour. (Do as I say, not as I do, my friends).

If you realize you’re lost and know where you took the wrong turn, GO BACK ASAP.

There comes a moment when you’re lost when you can usually pinpoint where you went wrong. When that happens, turn around as soon as you realize, despite the hope that maybe you’ll find a familiar street. Realizing you took a wrong turn is a sign from the universe that you need to go back, rather than trusting your foolish instincts. It’s a losing battle, and you will get more lost. It’s practically the law of the universe.

Just ask for directions, no matter how much you hate doing it.

This applies to everyone, and I’m ignoring the stereotype because it really isn’t just men. If you see a gas station or a small business, just stop. It’s almost guaranteed that someone will know how to get back to where you were headed, and you might stumble upon a cool store or attraction or monument that you wouldn’t have seen otherwise.

The moral of the story, friends, is that getting lost can be an adventure. You learn things about the area, about yourself as a navigator (this could be good or bad) and best of all, you have a story to tell at the end of it. Just remember that if you’re gonna get lost, try to do it on purpose.


Originally posted 2017-08-24 17:57:03.

Also published on Medium.

Continue Reading


Metalhead Transgender Woman is Making Political History



As a long-time fan of metal music and an advocate for LGBTQ+ rights, I am ecstatic that Danica Roem, band member of her band Cab Ride Home and transgender woman won a four-way Democratic primary on June 13th. In addition to being a musician in a metal band, she was also an experienced journalist in Prince William County, which is the county she wishes to represent if she wins the position a seat in the House of Delegates in Virginia.

However, while Roem has won the battle, she’s still fighting a war. In order to gain a seat in the House of Delegates, she will have to defeat Republican Bob Marshall who is currently serving his eleventh term. Bob Marshall supports one-man, one-woman marriage, believes that same-sex marriage has a negative effect on heterosexual marriage, introduced the Physical Privacy Act which would have prevented transgender individuals from using the bathroom that corresponds with their gender identity (luckily this bill failed), supports the idea that employers can fire someone based on sexual orientation and gender identity, has a weak idea of what equality means and twists around words to fit his agenda,

“There never were ‘heterosexual’ only water fountains in Virginia or other Southern states.  Separate elementary or secondary schools were not built for GLBTQ children.  Homosexuals and lesbians could sit anywhere they wanted on buses, trains and other public transportation.  Homosexuals were never enslaved as a class or brought to America in chains.  Homosexuals never were forbidden from ‘marrying’ heterosexuals.  Homosexuals did not have to engage in nationwide ‘sit ins’ at restaurant lunch counters to be served a meal.  Lesbians did not have to take “Literacy” tests as a condition for voting.” 

and many more discriminatory ideas. In comparison, Roem supports adding sexual orientation and gender identity to the Prince William School system’s nondiscrimination policy, protecting transgender students, and values people individually, not by what religion they belong to or what sexual orientation they may have.

With the current presidency comes a resurgence of ultra-conservative ideas and, because of that, it is a possibility that Bob Marshall will serve a twelfth term. However, Roem is off to a good start. By winning the Democratic primary, she is showing the US that even the most conservatives of states can switch courses and realize that members of the LGBT community deserve the same rights and opportunities as everyone else.

Since 1991, when Marshall was elected, Prince William County has become more left-leaning as the population grows. It was one of the Republican-controlled counties that voted for Hillary Clinton over Donald Trump which shows that the district leans more toward to progressive side, which is definitely good news for Danica Roem. Because of this, Roem has a real chance of winning a seat in the House of Delegates. Even if she does not earn the position, by running and winning the Democratic primary, Roem set the stage for future transgender individuals to run for a position in the government.

Originally posted 2017-08-24 11:48:44.

Also published on Medium.

Continue Reading


Copyright © 2017 TravelPride | A Division of Brand Spankin' New Media